Christians Are Supposed To Act Like…
It breaks my heart when I see Christian husbands and wives put themselves first and their mate a distant second. I hate it when I see Christian husbands and wives use hurtful words and actions to demean each other because Christians are not supposed to act like non-Christians. Christians have been delivered from the penalty and power of their sins through the death, burial, and resurrection of Christ (Romans 6). Christians have the Bible – the inspired Word of God – to teach them the truth, convict them of their sin, correct them when they get off the right path, and show them how to live right (2nd Timothy 3:16-17). Christians have their church to guide and support them. Christians have other Christians to pray and minister with. Christians have the Holy Spirit inside of them to lead, convict, and empower them. In short, Christians have everything they need to live a godly, victorious Christian life.
Christians are not supposed to act like non-Christians; Christians are supposed to act like Christ. Jesus treated everyone with love and respect. He willingly put others needs ahead of His own. He sacrificially gave up His time and energy to help everyone in need. Christ lived and died for others, and He called His followers to do the same. As Christ’s ambassadors to the world, Christians are to model how to properly love God and others (Mathew 22:34-40).
Why do some Christian husbands and wives not live like Christ?
- Some Christian husbands and wives are not real Christians.
Many of the people who claim to be Christians in our world today do not have a clue what it means to be a Christian. Some people wrongly believe they are a Christian because they are an American – as if being a citizen of the United States automatically makes you a Christ-follower. Then, some people believe they are a Christian because their mother had them sprinkled as a baby in a church somewhere. Do you know what happened to you when you were sprinkled as an infant? You got wet. That’s all. You just got wet, because tap water does not have the power to wash away your sins and change you into a new person! Then, some people believe they are a Christian because of their parent’s religion. People tell me all the time, “I was raised Catholic, Lutheran, Baptist, Mormon, etc.” Guys, it doesn’t make any difference how you were raised. Have you repented of your sins and believed and received Jesus as your Lord and Savior? (Romans 10:9-13). In reality, many “Christians” today are just people who are deceiving themselves or trying to deceive everyone around them. They are still “living in sin, just like the rest of the world, obeying the devil – the commander of the powers in the unseen world” and “following the passionate desires and inclinations of their sinful nature.” (Ephesians 2:2-3).
How can you know if you are a true Christian? True Christians want to live for Christ. True Christians do not live by their own truth and say anything they want to say and do whatever they want to do. True Christians are not selfish and self-centered little gods who just want everyone else to bow before them. Real Christians try to live each day for their Lord and Savior Jesus Christ!
- Some Christian husbands and wives have never learned what resources they have in Christ.
Unfortunately, some people trust Jesus as their Lord and Savior but never learn how to live like Christ. The Apostle Paul addresses Christians like this in his letter to the Ephesians. In the first three chapters of Ephesians, Paul shows Christians the spiritual blessings they have in Christ. In short, he tells Christians who they are and what they have been given when they were united with Christ at their new birth. Then, Paul uses chapters 4-6 to teach Christians their responsibility to live like Christ. Here’s a section from Ephesians chapter four that shows you Paul’s logic.
“With the Lord’s authority I say this: Live no longer as the Gentiles do, for they are hopelessly confused. Their minds are full of darkness; they wander far from the life God gives because they have closed their minds and hardened their hearts against him. They have no sense of shame. They live for lustful pleasure and eagerly practice every kind of impurity. But that isn’t what you learned about Christ. Since you have heard about Jesus and have learned the truth that comes from him, throw off your old sinful nature and your former way of life, which is corrupted by lust and deception. Instead, let the Spirit renew your thoughts and attitudes. Put on your new nature, created to be like God—truly righteous and holy.” Ephesians 4:17–24 NLT
You see, Paul knew if he could get the Christians living in Ephesus to fully understand the power available to them through their union with Christ, they would live differently than the non-Christians living in Ephesus. Paul knew if the Christians in Ephesus would imitate God in everything they did (Ephesians 5:1), they would live a life filled with love following the example of Christ (Ephesians 5:2), and live a moral, giving, wise, thankful, submissive life (Ephesians 5:3-20). Take some time and study Ephesians 5:21-6:9 and you will see how Christian husbands, wives, children, parents, employers, and employees are supposed to love, respect, and submit to one another out of reverence for Christ.
If you are struggling with to show love and respect to your mate, I encourage to check out your relationship with Jesus. Have you received Jesus as your Lord and Savior? If so, have you taken the time to learn about the spiritual resources you have been given in Christ and your responsibility to live for Him?
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