Are You Dating A Slacker?
The term slacker comes from the Latin word laxus, which means “loose, slack, or free”. The word was first used to describe a slow-moving current (e.g., a “slacker tide” or “slacker water”). But, when WW1 broke out, the term slacker became a defamatory title for men who refused to volunteer for military service, and later, when the Selective Service was initiated, the term slacker was used for draft dodgers. As the war developed, slacker became shorthand for a wide range of activities that were perceived to be unpatriotic. Newspapers printed weekly “Slacker Lists” to shame people who refused to purchase war bonds. Here’s the definition of a slacker from a pamphlet issued by a Texas Council of Defense:
“By the term ‘slacker’ we mean to convey the idea that one whose liberties and property are protected by a government supported by the sacrifices which are being made by the brave American soldier, and refuses to aid the government to the extent of his ability, is a traitor to his country and a disgrace to his community.”
Well, we no longer use the term slacker to describe unpatriotic people. We call people slackers when they shirk work or their responsibilities. Slackers are people who do not do what they are supposed to do.
What causes people to become a slacker?
- Some people are ignorant of their duties.
I know it sounds strange, but I have met people who do not understand they have responsibilities. I have seen immature husbands and wives who do not know how to fulfill their roles in marriage. I have also seen young parents not understand how to parent their children. And, I have seen stupid workers do stupid things in the workplace because they did not have a full understanding of their job duties.
- Some people are apathetic about their job.
Some people slack off because they are not passionate about the endeavor. I have worked beside coworkers who couldn’t care less about the company they were working for. They didn’t care if the company that paid their rent, food, and insurance bills succeeded or failed. Their apathy was evident in everything they did… or did not do. They got through their shift and grabbed a paycheck they didn’t deserve!
- But, most people are just lazy.
There are a lot of people in our world today that are just lazy (unwilling to work or use energy – Oxford Dictionary). You can blame it on their upbringing, or their social situation, or their pitiful circumstances, but many people have overcome these things and achieved great things. The truth is, some people just don’t want to do any work! They are lazy and undisciplined because they want to be lazy and undisciplined!
How can you identify a lazy person?
1. Lazy people love to sleep.
“Take a lesson from the ants, you lazybones. Learn from their ways and become wise! Though they have no prince or governor or ruler to make them work, they labor hard all summer, gathering food for the winter. But you, lazybones, how long will you sleep? When will you wake up? A little extra sleep, a little more slumber, a little folding of the hands to rest— then poverty will pounce on you like a bandit; scarcity will attack you like an armed robber.” Proverbs 6:6–11 NLT
“As a door swings back and forth on its hinges, so the lazy person turns over in bed.” Proverbs 26:14 NLT
2. Lazy people waste what has been given to them.
“Lazy people don’t even cook the game they catch, but the diligent make use of everything they find.” Proverbs 12:27 NLT
“Lazy people take food in their hand but don’t even lift it to their mouth.” Proverbs 26:15 NLT
3. Lazy people refuse to work.
“Despite their desires, the lazy will come to ruin, for their hands refuse to work.” Proverbs 21:25 NLT
4. Lazy people think they are smart.
“Lazy people consider themselves smarter than seven wise counselors.” Proverbs 26:16 NLT
5. Lazy people make excuses for not working.
“A lazy person’s way is blocked with briers, but the path of the upright is an open highway.” Proverbs 15:19 NLT
“The lazy person claims, ‘There’s a lion on the road! Yes, I’m sure there’s a lion out there!” Proverbs 26:13 NLT
What happens to lazy people? Lazy people are hungry and poor!
“Lazy people are soon poor…” Proverbs 10:4 NLT
“Lazy people want much but get little…” Proverbs 13:4 NLT
“Lazy people sleep soundly, but idleness leaves them hungry.” Proverbs 19:15 NLT
“Those too lazy to plow in the right season will have no food at the harvest.” Proverbs 20:4 NLT
“I walked by the field of a lazy person, the vineyard of one with no common sense. I saw that it was overgrown with nettles. It was covered with weeds, and its walls were broken down. Then, as I looked and thought about it, I learned this lesson: A little extra sleep, a little more slumber, a little folding of the hands to rest— then poverty will pounce on you like a bandit; scarcity will attack you like an armed robber.” Proverbs 24:30–34 NLT
What should we do for lazy people?
I am convinced we would have significantly fewer lazy people in our world if we quit enabling people to be lazy. The Bible says we should not take care of people who refuse to work for their living.
“It is good for workers to have an appetite; an empty stomach drives them on.” Proverbs 16:26 NLT
“… “Those unwilling to work will not get to eat.” 2nd Thess. 3:10 NLT
I encourage you to not date lazy people. Lazy boyfriends/girlfriends will take advantage of your time, energy, and money. Plus, lazy boyfriends/girlfriends become lazy husbands/wives that love to sleep, refuse to work, neglect their duties at home. Save yourself a lifetime of grief – do not marry a slacker!
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